MY VALUES

1. TRUTH HAS WEIGHT

If you’re not ready for reality, you’re not ready for my room. If it’s real, I live with it. I speak truth because I understand what it builds. I don’t pretend truth doesn’t have impact. I use truth to create alignment, not chaos for others. So if you know this about me, why are you here unless you’re ready to hear it?

2. DISCERNMENT IS REQUIRED

Don’t bring me your storyline. I don’t outsource my thinking to emotions or narratives. I choose discernment over distortion. I examine my reactions and my biases. I honor the inner architecture that keeps me from lying to myself. And if you’re in my presence, I expect you to do the same.

3. RESPECT IS THE ENTRY FEE

Respect is the baseline for human interaction. Period. I don’t tolerate condescension, projection, or manipulation. I meet people with respect, not suspicion. I require the same in return. I protect the integrity of my space. I do not seek what I do not respect. And if you’re approaching me at all, ask yourself, did you walk in with respect for me, or did you expect me to to contort myself around what you are trying to find for yourself?

4. DEPTH WITHOUT DELUSIONS

I go deep because I understand life beneath the surface, not because I’m chasing intensity. Depth is clarity. Drama is distortion. I seek what’s real, not what’s loud. I follow the structure beneath the emotion. I do not indulge delusion disguised as depth. So if you’re coming to me at all, are you here for truth or are you hoping I’ll validate the story you built to avoid it?

5. SELF RESPONSIBILITY IS FREEDOM

If it’s your life, live like it. Have some self respect. I’ve lived through too much to pretend someone else is responsible for my choices. Healing didn’t happen until I claimed my part in my life. Accountability is liberation, not punishment. When you own your choices, you reclaim authorship of your life. Responsibility gives direction, boundaries, and power. Avoidance keeps people trapped in loops they swear they want to escape. I move forward with intention, not excuses. So if you’re in my presence, ask yourself, Are you here to take responsibility for your life or to hand me the blame you don’t want to carry?

6. THEORY & PRACTICE

I trust what I’ve lived. Not what people pretend to know by the standard of somebody else’s setting. Survival shaped my clarity. Motherhood sharpened my instincts. Experience is a teacher that doesn’t lie. Wisdom grows from contact with reality. Theory is useful, lived experience is truth in motion and I don't discount the knowledge earned through pain, pattern, and perseverance. I honor the intelligence I earned. I respect the lessons that shaped me. I move through the world informed by reality, not ideals. And if you come to me for insight, don’t expect theory. Expect the roots buried within the life I had to survive to understand.

7. NO MYTHOLOGIES ABOUT ME

People have rewritten me more times than I can count
through projection, fear, fantasy, and whatever narrative made my clarity easier to dismiss. I define myself through lived experience, not assumption. Through structure, not speculation. Through reality, not rumor. I refuse to let other people’s mythology speak louder than my own voice. So if you’re approaching me at all, ask yourself, are you meeting the woman who exists or the character you or somebody else created so you wouldn’t have to see her clearly?